A beautiful August morning, what better way to spend the day, than to take a leisurely stroll through a gorgeous lavender field. A veritable sea of purples everywhere, long spikes of lavender growing in synchronised fashion, permeating the surrounding air with its all-encompassing fragrance. A beautiful cloud free blue sky above, with a promise of more blissful times ahead.
A sense of peace enveloped me, not felt for some time, and only the angry buzzing of the industrious bees woke me out of this lavender induced slumber.
What could be the cause for this lack of peace?? Well after having examined my conscience long and hard, I managed to narrow it down to the lack of genuine female solidarity. There have been acquaintances keen to medicalise every genuine concern from perhaps a misplaced sense of altruism, be it sexism, inequalities in relationships, or rage over very valid concerns. As if counselling and therapy alone, could address the shortages in humanitarian values, kindness, compassion, the absence of a heart, or PTSD caused by structural inequalities.
Then there are a few who preach the virtues of family values, as if family values were a one-sided venture, or the ones who promise support, only to disappear at the first sign of a serious calamity. Support in this instance only referring to the re-telling of ghost stories.
And the few who are easily bowled over by a few strategically thrown sweet words, little of which is backed by action. Is it the case, lesser mortals are deserving of less?
Slightly shocking are ones who only befriend, to procure whatever takes their fancy and make a hasty exit as soon as the task is accomplished, forgetting that life is a series of give and takes. Or the so-called alpha females who whilst enjoying the benefits of fitting in to mainstream society, still want to lay claim to every grievance that a genuinely marginalised woman would be vulnerable to.
Then there are the ultra-competitive and sadly jealous, who think nothing of disempowering another deserving female and putting them at risk of the myriad forms of abuse…financial and domestic.
My pet hate being individuals, who will only believe in anything if it comes out of a man and actively collaborate towards situations putting women at jeopardy, like being dependent on male relatives who may be unfit for these responsibilities.
The avalanche of issues…stupidity, over medicalisation, over competitiveness, pseudo family values and pseudo fashionistas, enough to generate the beginnings of a headache. The idiosyncrasies of the female human species very baffling. It appears feminism has made very little genuine progress after all.
Back to smelling the lavender and drifting along on a lavender induced haze, whilst hoping for the prevailing of better values. Simple pleasures of life.
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